Where Does Freedom Come From?

回到美國的生活已三個月，上週終於開始想把生活焦點移到我的身上，一口氣就報了Sheila Kelly S factor pole dance workout. A place that empowers women, worship their beauty, follow instincts and find your strengths, and learn that we have full control over what we want to accomplish. Like all others, this place helps me to "wow" at myself. Once we believe we are a beautiful gift of God, then we would be amazed by each of the curves we find in our body; once we find our strengths of inverting on a pole, we know we could conquer just about anything down on the road of our lives. Women are born to be dominant and powerful. That is why we say “Mother" Nature, instead of Father Nature :). It gives sort of the same concepts that this other class that I enrolled kids in, Tempest Freerunning Academy. It’s signature ideal: Thru Freedom, Thru Movements. If you find a way to overcome an obstacle with your body, you learn to find ways to overcome obstacles in your life. It’s the build up of this sense of “ I can, if I want ; I want, therefore I will.. “. “I” is also a very powerful word, it basically sends the message of that I am the one in control. 9/30/2015

An Undervalued Women Issue

I have this huge issue of women's rights and their roles in this society .. For example .. If we think of our moms cook the best, how come all the famous chefs are guys ?  It is because women often give up being promoted or can’t be devoted to career because they make sacrifice for their family ..

So if a guy is into food network, it can turn into a career, but if a woman is into it .. in most case scenario .. It naturally becomes part of the chores that she does everyday and is taken for granted, and the worst part is : No pay .

While wives feeling so thankful towards their husbands for earning money .. They forgot

and are not viewed as a worker who works inside the family and receives no salary .

I have seen many women in Taiwan were asked to stay home serving husbands，kids

and the elderly ( often the parents in law ) .They have no money but keep on serving and staying loyal to their marital family no matter what .

No matter what means : if husbands have affairs , if they don't like the in laws , if they are demanded to have babies, if they are abused, or if they wish to live in a separate space from the marital family . Women are cheap . Getting married technically means you are sold .

Because you have tons of unpaid duties that keep you from getting a paid job. Without money in your own pocket, you are just gonna end up staying with the same unpaid duties even when you are not happy, which again, leaves you no time to pursue a paid job. It’s like a vicious cycle.

Unless…your other half is hypnotized to be loyal to you and nurture you in everyway he can, so you are insured with that type of guarantee. Unfortunately, it can not be true in reality.

Maybe that's why I tend to be attracted by western guys who are more likely to hold values emphasizing on individuals. But no matter what , I have learned that no relationship is ought to last for a life time , even it is bonded with a contract . It's a total foolish belief .

But a relationship "Can" last a life time in its natural , humane course. That's why I believe in living at the moment, and moment"s" could form a life time . 9/10/2015 ﷽﷽﷽﷽﷽﷽﷽﷽﷽﷽，﷽﷽﷽﷽﷽﷽﷽﷽﷽﷽﷽﷽﷽﷽﷽﷽﷽﷽ e happy to ㄍ﷽﷽﷽﷽﷽﷽﷽﷽﷽﷽﷽

A Lifetime Lasting Relationship?

人的一輩子非得要跟著同一個人過嗎？無數的電影，小說，世世代代的前輩的婚姻總是不斷在告誡在啟發這樣的規則，一個人的心意真的可以用規則去界定？去訂出它永恆的形象嗎？活得夠久一個人有七八十年要過，也就是說若在三十歲找到另一半，我們需要跟著同一個人過五十年的生活，不管在這當中我們怎麼遭遇怎麼改變？？這樣的規則說好聽是山盟海誓不離不棄白頭偕老，但它是否有可能是一個心靈的禁錮？電影my favorite five 提到一個有成女性因為無法在同一個男生身上找到她需要的所有伴侶特質，所以他同時交往五個男生各取他們有的一項特質，雖然結局是他找到真愛，但真愛難道不是只有當下能肯定能符和，怎能知道彼此適合一輩子？能在不同男人身上得到不同需求的滿足，這樣吸引我，中國歷代帝王，不都一個個有自己的my favorite 100? 200? 而且還新舊交替？在以為找到真命天子的那時，怎會知道在無限延長的時空裡， 每一件你以為已經是結果的事情，恐怕只是過程，而且是過程中的極小部分。 7/28/2015

讀過的一篇文章分享提到兩個人要能夠一直一起必要的條件是能夠持續給對方啟發，也就是說兩人都要能探自己的險，產生自己的心得和新意，並帶給對方影響。我和林先生在這各自生活的時空當中是否能更充分的探險？聆聽自己心靈的需求並得到滿足？這個論點我很認同，也發現隨著年齡漸增，自己在心靈層次上所需要的滋養越來越重，也許我有潛力成為白頭偕老一族，但實話是，我暫時還割捨不掉對my favorite five 的嚮往。今天從十二街騎單車到amandine , the brunch place where James and I used to go. I did not know if I could make it this far, but I felt like coming here again. Without him, but with the memory of him, I want to see if that brings me a whole new experience to our relationship. I wish he could just be more nurturing, gentle and romantic… (at Amandine) 8/12/2015